Drawing the Line

Situations in life, as unique as we believe they are, share more in common with a used car than a shiny new pet. If there was ever a life item that stood out as a thread that binds all of humanity it would be drawing the line between complacency and action. I recognize, as the effigy goes, there exists a time for peace and a time for war but the question begs – how does one know the difference? For myself and the many underachievers of this world this question has likely plagued us for the entirety of our existences. Answer this riddle correctly reap the rewards, miss this question and prepare for the agony that tends to follow.

There’s tons of advice on how to realize this in ones life. The problem with this wave of self-help garbage is that it ultimately helps only a fraction of those that implement its strategies. Sold as a one-size-fits all solution to what ails you, most of the suggestions you’ll come across are little more than a load of metaphysical mumbo-jumbo and serve as much utility as a size 16EEE sneaker does to Peter Dinklage. For those who have seen little to no success trying to ride the Tony Robbins bandwagon it seems giving the other end of the bell curve a crack is worth a shot.

The solution for those brave souls moving forward on this call to action is precisely that – action. It doesn’t matter what sparks the battle, simply begin wagging war. War against the job you hate, the shitty relationship you have, the unceasingly circular direction life keeps traveling in. Better to fight and expel the entirety of ones energy against the almost Calvinistic nature of our existence than to live and die giving in to the unfair level of life’s playing field. I leave you with the words of the poet Dylan Thomas;

‘Do not go gentle into that good night, old age should burn and rave at close of day, rage, rage against the dying of the light’.

Quit your Dreaming

It doesn’t matter who we are, what matters is our plan.’

– Bane from the film ‘Dark Knight Rises’

I suspect it’s not often a person glancing an opinion piece on the various subjects of life – particularly those meant to be inspiring or uplifting – will find a quote from a despotic, fictitious character. Fortunately for those reading, this is not one of those kinds of articles. In fact, this one is quite the opposite. The human concept of having dreams, specifically as it relates to achieving things, albeit going on an exotic beach vacation, purchasing the nice home with property in the suburbs, or landing a role in a big Hollywood production, is a breathtakingly misguided principle. To paraphrase the late George Carlin – ‘you know why they call it [dreaming], because you have to be asleep to believe it’.

Google any quote about dreaming and I’m sure you’ll see a million plus different results. You could also see something similar if you were to look at any twenty-something year old, white girl’s Instagram account. Few people seem to understand you can have an idea, vision or dream of what you want to accomplish but this means jack shit if you don’t have a plan. Sure, some people win the genetic lottery and are born not having to do much to get much (i.e. any of the Kardashians) but most likely you aren’t one of them…I know I’m certainly not. What you need is a plan.

Herein lies the problem; what if you don’t have plan? What if your only goal every day is just to get by? What if it feels like the cards are stacked against you? Well, then – as the old adage says – get a clue. Try things, as many different things as you like, have time or resources for, then see what sticks. After you’ve narrowed it down – and this could take awhile (which there’s absolutely NOTHING wrong with) – the next step is have a plan. Think of life as if you were building something. Unless your Michelangelo chances our you’ll need to come up with a blueprint. This blueprint will become the draft template from which you make decisions and take actions. Build in some contingencies as life is likely to throw you a curve ball or three. Step by step you will build your life in the closest approximation to what it is you desire.

While it’s normal to get emotional about life there’s no need to turn your existence into an Academy Award winning performance at every bend. If you stop dreaming and start simply doing you’ll find you’re oftentimes too busy to get caught up in the trap. Dreaming is really just a futile exercise, instead be a thinker then a doer. You’ll likely get much further along the path you’re taking to get to the things you want. Remember while sleeping is good for you and your body when you get up, getting going and start putting that plan into action. Let other people dream of the things they want – you’ve got work to do.